Don’t get freaked out… and please have some mercy on your our future WIFE or HUSBAND . Here is a list of those important things you should know when getting to know someone, you might not get to ask them directly, but still find a way to ask or know all the answers to the 50 points listed below:
1) What is your concept of marriage?
2) Have you been married before?
3) Are you married now?
4) What are you expectations of marriage?
5) What are your goals in life? (Long term and short term)
6) Identify three things that you want to accomplish in the near future.
7) Identify three things that you want to accomplish, long term.
8] Why have you chosen me/other person as a potential spouse?
9) What is the role of religion in your life now?
10) Are you a spiritual person?
11) What is your understanding of an Islamic marriage?
12) What are you expecting of your spouse, religiously?
13) What is your relationship between yourself and the Muslims community in your area?
14) Are you volunteering in any Islamic activities?
15) What can you offer your zawj (spouse), spiritually?
16) What is the role of the husband?
17) What is the role of the wife?
18) Do you want to practice polygamy?
19) What is your relationship with your family?
20) What do you expect your relationship with the family of your spouse to be?
21) What do you expect your spouses relationship with your family to be?
22) Is there anyone in your family living with you now?
23) Are you planning to have anyone in your family live with you in the future?
24) If, for any reason, my relationship with your family turns sour, what should be done?
25) Who are your friends? (Identify at least three.)
26) How did you get to know them?
27) Why are they your friends?
28) What do you like most about them?
29) What will your relationship with them after marriage be?
30) Do you have friends of the opposite sex?
31) What is the level of your relationship with them now?
32) What will be the level of your relationship with them after marriage?
33) What type of relationship do you want your spouse to have with your friends?
34) What are the things that you do in your free time?
35) Do you love to have guests in your home for entertainment?
36) What are you expecting from your spouse when your friends come to the house?
37) What is your opinion of speaking other languages in home that I do not understand? (with friends or family)
38) Do you travel?
39) How do you spend your vacations?
40) How do you think your spouse should spend vacations?
41) Do you read?
42) What do you read?
43) After marriage, do you think that you are one to express romantic feelings verbally?
44) After marriage, do you think that you want to express affection in public?
45) How do you express your admiration for someone that you know now?
46) How do you express your feelings to someone who has done a favor for you?
47) Do you like to write your feelings?
48) If you wrong someone, how do you apologize?
49) If someone has wronged you, how do you want him/her to apologize to you?
50) How much time passes before you can forgive someone?
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